Coaching Tips

There are two different specific styles of coaching...The first is called directional coaching. In this style of coaching I tell you exactly what to do and how to do it. Many companies take this approcah. One of my clients told me about his partner who joined a very successful practice management group that gives you a script for absolutely everything you say and do. You actually have to sign an agreement that you will do things exactly their way and say everything exactly how it is written or your contract with them is null and void. This program by the way is $20,000 up front.

Don't get me wrong, I am not bashing it, it works to some degree, but it doesn't take into account the very specific and personalized needs of each individual doctor and each patient. It is canned and it puts all of us in the same box. It is all about control and managing our behaviors. The problem is if we are controlled and treated in this way, we will try to control others; our patients, our children, our spouses etc. No one likes to be controlled, and it eventually leads to rebellion.

The style of coaching I like to employ is called Discovery coaching. Here you and I specifically focus on just you and your particular needs. We begin by making sure that the "practice of your dreams" is really the practice of your dreams. Once we are sure what your dreams are and what you really want, we are able to come up with a clear path with action steps to attain those goals.

As I mentioned most people don't really know what they want. It is one of the major reasons they are not able to do the things they think they need to do to get what they want. Their conscious mind and subconscious mind are not congruent, and this leads to destruction. This is a big reason for procrastination, self sabotage and burn out. Without really knowing what we want it is difficult to get there and we are always disappointed once we do get there.

We have goals, make decisions and take action steps. If we run into a wall and don't follow through with what we intended to do, more often than not we have some incongruity in our lives. Have you ever experienced this phenomenon? You know you want to start asking for referrals. You even think you know how to, but at the end of the day you still haven't been able to do it. If you do get to it, you don't seem to be able to do it regularly.

This is where we really begin to gain some ground. We are looking for the underlying reasons and take appropriate steps. We are not trying to manage your behaviors and make you do things that you don't want to do. We are getting to the underlying causes of why you behave the way you do.

I coach and teach by asking you specific questions which lead you to many doors. As you explore and open the doors you begin to experience what is true and best for you. You begin to find your own perfect and personalized path. In this way you can thrive, not just survive and you will not burn out because you are living your dream, not someone else's.

As your coach, I encourage you to set goals that you truly want. I will ask you to do more than you may have done on your own. I help you focus better in order to produce results more quickly and I provide you with the tools, support, and structure to accomplish more. Please see "about coaching."

I will request that you send me tapes of your consultation/examination, report of finding's, daily interactions etc. We work together very closely to make sure that you have honed your skills to a razor sharp edge while we clear out the "unseen" blockages that keep you from saying what you mean and meaning what you say. After you have become "brilliant at the basics" we will concentrate on helping you grow your practice, sustain your level of success and build/maintain the life and the lifestyle you want.

Together we explore many options and possibilities. We will help you find your diamonds, your truths. Your temperament, behavioral style, values and belief systems will be taken into consideration when determining what fits you best.

I do not control you; I do not have all of the answers for you. I have an overview; I see the missing pieces of the puzzle. I can help you connect the dots. I direct you through giving you missing information and asking the right questions to help you explore and come up with the perfect answers for your very personalized style and needs. This is a very personal style of work vs. a canned approach.

If you are being coached and empowered this way, you can offer this type of empowerment to your patients, your children, your significant other, and everyone you meet. This leads to much happier healthier long term relationships. By doing this you are congruent, you become empowered, and you become attractive.